Do we have any limit to our intolerance?

Our society, comprising people who are more educated and affluent now, but they are equally intolerant to each other. Over a period, it has been observed that they are becoming more and more intolerant, and quite a few have either become or are on the verge of becoming radicalists. One can meet a lot of well-educated people, working in multinational companies, but they endorse suicide attacks, and are bent upon promoting one sect of Islam, while rejected others all together. In certain cases, they reach the extent of favoring elimination of others, if their insistence upon changing one’s sect does not help in ‘mending or correcting’ them. The religious lot is not only an utter failure rather they have further deepened this division, which is also done in order to have their grip further strengthened by promoting their own agenda of deep hatred so that they could be considered as ‘men of great honour’. On the other hand, our attitude towards family members, both immediate and distant, friends, colleagues and society at large, is if not condemnable then certainly not good, which imparts an impression of a society which by and large an intolerant one. We are not ready to accept others’ apologies what to talk of foregoing of mistakes. The educated disdain the uneducated or lesser educated, so-called enlightened reject other by asserting that the others do not have depth. One can be crude in his expressions, while they are considered worthless by the intelligentsia disparagingly. Now this behaviour is evident among the youth too, who are obviously following into the footsteps of their elders. This is continuing unabatedly in each stratum of the society. Only those are tolerant to each other who have certain interest weaved into their lives, social and businesses too. Politicians take the lead in this regard. Despite apparent differences, they are deeply connected to each other, like the businessmen, who have inter-marriages despite rivalries. In an overall scenario, the middle class is sustaining its resentments to the last, while the upper class makes hay under all circumstances.

Valuing the departed ones! … Why not in their lives!

We, as a society, have developed an attitude of honoring and remembering the dead ones, instead of the living ones. Is it because of the fact that we consider people more precious after they leave this world? On occasions, one can see people thronging graveyards, showering flowers and praying. Quite a few have wet eyes, while the others give a somber look! One can see visible pain on everybody face, which is further augmented by any festive occasion. Do we value people when they are alive? We might be, but again the question is: Do we as much as we do afterwards? The answer would be a big NO! And if we know this, then we must change our attitudes towards our fellow beings! We have a sort of tradition now that we don’t condemn the dead ones, asserting that ‘his matters are with Allah now; so we must leave it to Him (Allah).’ May be a good attitude for quite a few, but others believe that criticising or condemning should be continued so that the living ones should know that people would hurl abuses at them even after their deaths; so they should mend themselves in this world as well. But good ones should be certain that they would be praised even afterwards, while remembering them good way whenever talking about them. Ideally it would be good to keep people, good or bad, in mind even during their lifetime. Can we do it instead of mourning after their deaths?

Replacement of human beings as quick as gadgets

Everyday inventions in mobile, computer and other technologies are making people buy new gadgets with equal speed. Prior to the launching of any brand, especially mobile, it is talk of the world, and search engines’ traffic reaches its peak. The iPhone6 is the recent example. But on the other hand, do we realise how quickly we change people too. Even the indispensable lot is replaced certain other persons, while in relations, someone replaces the other. Will we stop somewhere? Do we really value people? Even an answer in positive would carry a big question mark. Now friendship are replaced with more friendship, may be to last little duration than the previous ones. One can see another trend among people now. He would befriend you, then after some time move on your friends, and one fine day you would find that your friend is closer to that person, and he is sort of manipulating his own way up. This cycle will continue till the person is exposed of being an opportunist. Beware of them!

Fakeness is the call of the day … a disease becoming epidemic!

Earlier it used to be a prerogative of female actors but now one can find even ordinary people feigning ‘fakeness’ in their routine life though posing to be hugely real. It has made them look more dubious, and their listeners become restless, while waiting for the moment when they would either stop talking or kind enough to leave. Their facial expressions are not in correspondence to their minds and hearts; resultantly their talk has no effect on the listeners. Moreover, with narrowed eyes, lined foreheads and unusually frequent movement of hands make them target of public ridicule. Do they realise this? Perhaps not since their effort is to look different and pose themselves as big shots. In the same vein they also talk of subjects distant to the knowledge of their listeners. Lo and behold! Let anybody utter even a single word of the subject, and they would immediately pounce upon the opportunity of showing themselves men of great knowledge. Also, these people have another habit of bringing others to their pitch by alluding to their favourite subject. And if the listener takes the bait, then he would have it from them since they would not let the listener speak for a moment. Now the ‘target’ has only one way of ‘getting rid’ of the knowledge man, and that is, either he has to leave or somebody arrives to change the subject. After some time, one will find the newly-arrived gentleman in hot waters since their formula approach would be enticed him to their pitches. The third types of fakes are best at name dropping. Earlier, their usual claim used to be about showing the listener that they were well-connected, and frequent big houses without any hindrance. Now they have reached another level of eulogising those big names, and if anyone dares to contend their assertions or contradict the speakers, it can set the perfect stage for conflict. Remember! Such people do not value others, and in their heart of hearts, believe that others are good-for-nothing fellows. They love to find faults even in those people who are respected in the society, or otherwise they are at least higher achievers, more than the ordinary. This psyche has become a disease now, which could become an epidemic one day, especially in a society like ours. Life would be certainly far easier if we try to be what we are, and keep ourselves within our limits, while depicting ourselves to be the same!

Respect begets love …. An end to differences

Differences among human beings are primarily because of lack of respect since we have started believing more in professing love instead of practising respect. We rarely honour others in pure intention, and if there is any, it is carries with it an ulterior motive, which is usually materialistic. That is why one sees this ‘fake honour’ withering or eliminating totally after certain time because by then, either the objective has been achieved or has been defeated. Also, this ‘social love’ has become a routine among close members of any family unit. People can be seen adoring their family members, and pronouncing it publicly as well, but we rarely find people showing respect to each other. This results in differences as a routine, but because of love, these are mended after some time, depending upon the intensity of the conflict. If they would respect each other, certainly differences could be minimised, if not eliminated. The element of respect is rarely found among siblings and life-partners; that is why they are quarreling among themselves, while couples parting ways, even if they had spent decades together, while breathing in the same pace. The parents must teach their children to respect each other as well, besides being an example themselves. The same is true among friends as well. In our culture, it is believed that any friendship is not fast if level of frankness is not touching brims of hurling abuses and calling friends with ugly names. Respecting each other can add years to the friendship, and love too. Succinctly, in all relations respect should be given priority as the first step, while love would be a natural outcome.

Economics behind this pretty girl’s request

(This is an email forwarded to me by a friend. Coincidentally, just before reading the email, I was talking to a friend about an ambitious divorced female with four kids wishing to get married on her conditions. By the following standards of beauty, the Pakistani ‘woman’ stood the farthest in the line, but she is still a huge claimant of being the girl-charming of the city. ) Certainly, an amazing reply by J.P. Morgan CEO to a Pretty girl!

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.
My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden (?), $250k annual income is not enough.
I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I've met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (My target now is to get married)

Ms. Pretty

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Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here! From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you.
The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of 'beauty' and 'money': Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a 'trading position'. If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or 'leased'. Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you.
I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
Hope this reply helps ... If you are interested in 'leasing' services, do contact me.

signed,
CEO
J.P. Morgan

Moods swings and weather changes

This part of world seems to an island of hell during the summers. The capacity of working people goes down, while everyone seemed to be annoyed.
Consequently, one tries to reach the conclusion that the mood swings are directly proportional to the weather changes. This is further augmented by the fact that the government has miserably failed in providing electricity to the people, who are virtually the greatest sufferers because of this. You are neither certain when power outage will begin, nor when the electricity will be restored.
Perhaps, the US will ‘allow’ us to have civil nuke energy utilisation, and it would be certainly a welcome thing here provided the Pakistani government remains sincere. Otherwise, this nation will certainly become an ‘angry’ one.
Till then……..Bravo Pakistanis…. You are great that you entertain yourselves by thinking about democratic, modern and prosperous Pakistan.

'Sinner' boozers!

Pakistanis drink wine, but all the time consider it a sin as well.
Is it possible for them to shun this thinking and do it sans feeling guilty simultaneously?

A novel way to communicate message!

Lovers have their own way of doing things, and this is evident from the picture below, which carries message for the beloved.

The message is: 'Darling! I will wait for you tomorrow at 12 noon at Haji Sahab's grave. You can ask the rest from this child'.

'Demanding' ads... New face of Pakistan

This is what many can call 'New face of Pakistan'.

No comments are being offered except two cuttings of advertisements.... (Click to enlarge images and read carefully)

Comments are yours.....

We must value....

Thinking of establishing a hospital in the memory of one's mother, or an education institution for the poor of the country, is no doubt one of the glaring achievements made by the chosen ones. Moreover, thinking of propagating the true religious teachings is also of prime importance.

Why are we all the time looking for doing bigger-than-life things so that others could notice us and talk about us?

Not the right approach considering the circumstances where one is living on the edge of life with ever-diminishing resources!

Then! Carry on doing small things in life. Meeting others with a smile can make his day, and that person can think of meeting you again in life! This is such an act which is a blessing for the rest of your life. You never lose anything as you are giving something to other people. And it is always better that you are giving others, instead of taking all the time. Better be a giver, than a getter! Yes! Achiever one must be, which is also possible through giving a lot to others.

There are a huge number of things one can do for the fellow human beings, and one must keep on doing.

Lets see what can we do for those who never complain to us and are spurned by many thinking that they are not our responsibility; but they are. I am talking about animals.

Just stop here! Have you ever thought that these animals deserve better treatment. It is not necessary that we must take care of our pets, rather giving a piece of bread, feeding sparrows, or pouring milk for a cat, can bring us happiness.

Please do these minor things! And we must value our such minor acts because we are doing it for others.

Too loud to be heard by the soul?

Loud cries of souls, snubbed, loud souls buried under social stigmas....what should a conscientious man must do....
Perhaps he must bury himself in the technology where not only his voice, rather the voices around him are falling on 'deafened' ears.
Today technology is not only blurring our visions, rather blunting our morals and sense of belonging to the social stratum where lies our soul.
The same is true of this gentleman who has turned the car in to a speaker house; hence virtually turning it in to more of a music outlet, and less of a car.
Is it an attempt to forget the world or 'requesting loudly' to the world to forget him?

Time changes people?

Is that the case?

Then this very things is negated by those who remain the same even under the most adverse of circumstances, and against the most excruciating times, both personal and otherwise.
Are these one wrong in making choices and sticking to those?

Or

Moving ahead considering your own self important, while disregarding everything else, even the rarities attached to life?

Adjudge it... adjudge others, and consider yourself absolutely right....
Consider it...consider others....only let yourself remain supreme....
But for how long.....
Think.....
Who you are.....
What are you doing.....
How are you doing.....
Time changes every moment.....
Don't live with time....
Change 'clothes' to match the weather....
Never make your soul go through a change to match the weather....
Otherwise....even weather will reject you....
And you will never....
Just think.....